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Choosing Radical Love Over Fear

As I observe my thoughts during this unprecedented time of division and an increasing sense of ‘us’ vs. ‘them’ in the United States, I find myself experiencing a range of emotions. Are you?

Deep down, I refuse to feel disempowered or fearful of things that might happen in the future. But sometimes on the surface, I watch myself feel angry, sad, puzzled, dismayed, and yes, sometimes a bit fearful. I am 67 years old and my remaining decades aren’t as many as they were in my 30s. So, my justified anger and fear and sadness really isn’t for me, it’s for the children of this world.

When I pray, I repeatedly ask, “What is mine to do?”  And the answer is always — “Love more and be more kind”.

For those of you who would like to love more, and I mean RADICALLY love more, I have decided to share Chapter 21, “Love Radically” in my Wellness Wisdom book. You’ll find 7 Steps to Choosing “Radical” Love Over Fear at the end of the chapterPlease let me know which step(s) will be most supportive for you.

Excerpt from 

Wellness Wisdom: 31 Ways to Nourish Your Mind, Body, & Spirit
2nd edition, 2011

by
Susan Tate 

Chapter 21
Love Radically

And now these three remain: faith, hope and love.
But the greatest of these is love.
~1 Corinthians 13:13

Years ago I gave my father a spice tin labeled “Love.” At the time, he was lovingly taking over all of the cooking responsibilities as he nourished my mother in her final year of life. Printed at the bottom of the tin was the net weight “immeasurable”—and the list of ingredients included: joy, kindness, patience, peace, trust, and goodness, among other loving qualities. The directions for use encouraged the cook to add a big pinch of Love to every recipe. I believe my dad was adding a big dose of “radical love” to my mom’s life in many sweet and tender ways. After my father passed away, I inherited this spice tin and use it frequently. It has a place of honor on my kitchen stove.

As you know, you don’t need a spice tin to add love to food or to life. When I put my attention toward love, I find that it fills and deeply nourishes my mind, body, and spirit. This attention doesn’t come from a place of seeking or longing, but rather it seems to be radically splashing out from me. As I splash, I have learned that love flows best when it flows freely, with no expectations attached. And in challenging situations when that flow feels blocked, I often ask, “What would love do now?”

The word radical means, “relating to or affecting the fundamental nature in something.” Its synonyms are: fundamental, essential, deep-seated, sweeping, thorough, far-reaching, and major. What great sentiments to think about when deepening your thoughts on love, or commitment, or marriage.

A few years ago I was having a great conversation with a man I had just met. He mentioned that he was still friends with his former wife, despite the fact that he had experienced a failed marriage. After commenting on how awesome it was to still be friends with his former wife, I found myself telling him, “I’ve had two successful marriages!” I went on to say, “I’ve been divorced twice but I refuse to think of them as ‘failed’ marriages.” I surprised myself, as it had taken me years to forgive myself for choosing to end the 25-year marriage to my high school sweetheart and a two-year marriage that followed some years later. Initially, I felt like I had a scarlet “D” on my forehead. I, Susan Tate, was Divorced. I was embarrassed and a bit ashamed that I couldn’t make a marriage work “till death do us part.” But as I healed my heart, I realized those two marriages were filled with love—radical love. I’m glad I was married.

And I wouldn’t trade a day. These experiences were successful in taking me to the next level of learning and loving. I learned so much and I treasure and respect both marriages. I personally believe I had a sacred soul agreement with each of these amazing men. Do I wish I could have been married and reveling in the happily-ever-after? Of course, but that’s not what life dealt and I don’t regret my decisions. Did everyone work as hard as they could to save the marriages? My response is an unequivocal, “Yes.” Now that’s fundamental, essential, deep-seated, sweeping, thorough, far-reaching, and major love!

Speaking of radical love, I must admit that prior to my first divorce, I would judge people who couldn’t stay married, couldn’t make their marriage “successful;” and I too thought people and marriages had failed. I am still learning lessons of humility and non-judging. I was standing next to a good friend in her kitchen when she spoke about a woman we both knew: “She’s on her third husband!” (A somewhat judgmental statement, just like I used to make.) She said it like that was some horrid damnable thing! “Bite your tongue!” I said to her. “I plan to be on my third husband some day!”

While we’re on the topic of love, marriage, and commitment, I ecstatically recommend Elizabeth Gilbert’s Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace with Marriage.” She presents a history of marriage that is enlightening, captivating, and sometimes startling. Her personal navigation through her own belief system may prompt an expanded awareness of your own beliefs.

Marriage is sacred to me and I honor and value it. And sometimes marriages end, and it’s healthier that way for everyone. And it hurts like hell (and by the way, no, I don’t think I’m going there!) So, if your marriage or commitment to a life partner has ended, consider (in time) calling it a success. Love yourself. Love the other. Now, that’s radical love, don’t you think?

In other circumstances, it’s quite easy to love. The words, “I love you” flow easily in my daily prayers as I send loving thoughts to my children, grandchildren, family, and friends. That’s easy love. But for me, loving radically sometimes means loving people when they might not appear very loveable. It means sending love to terrorists and people I don’t really like. It means sending love to the person at the post office who was wearing a hat to cover her hair loss from radiation treatments. It means loving myself as I am now, as I was before, and as the person I am becoming.

Radical love can also mean choosing love over fear. Do you have a steady hum of fear running through your mind? How would it feel to shift your fearful thinking to “love-full” thinking?

Cellular biologist Bruce Lipton, Ph.D., writes an attention-grabbing statement in his powerful work, The Biology of Belief: Unleashing the Power of Consciousness, Matter and Miracles. He states, “The simple truth is, when you’re frightened you’re dumber.” Now I am not one to label someone’s intelligence, but after reading his biological explanation of how our cells respond so unfavorably to a steady diet of fear, I believe I personally make healthier, smarter choices when choosing love rather than fear.

Dr. Lipton’s statement doesn’t refer to the instant rush of adrenaline or cortisol that floods our bloodstream when the “fight or flight” response kicks into gear as our body or mind perceives a fear-filled threat. This response is actually a built-in source of genetic wisdom that supports our quick reactions and decision-making that will hopefully keep us safe. In these instances, fear is a good thing, and the chemical reactions in the body are designed to support us in making smarter decisions.

Instead, Lipton’s statement refers to a steady diet of fight/flight, over-activated by a build-up of excessive stress. That constant drain actually challenges our decision-making process and can lead to choices that probably aren’t as smart as decisions we’d choose through the lens of love.

Overall, when we make decisions based on love rather than fear, our choices will be healthier, as well as smarter. When I view this concept through a political lens, it makes me respect our leaders who draw from the energy of love rather than fear. When I tune in to my business decisions, I want to be sure I am making grounded, intelligent, and loving choices for the good of all involved. In relationships, I want to speak from the chambers of my heart where I know love (radical love) and truth reside. In financial decision-making, I want to choose with intelligence and without the six-o’clock news scaring me with a constant forecast of economic or global gloom and doom.

Rev. Michael Bernard Beckwith expresses a powerful view of love in his words: “Love. You are not meant to search for it. You are not meant to wait for it. You are meant to generate it.” Hmm, that could be my new definition of radical love.

Here are a seven action steps aimed at directing your thinking more toward radical love. Feel free to add more.

Seven Steps for Choosing (Radical) Love Over Fear

  1. Lovingly observe when you enter the emotional realm of fearful thinking. You might say to yourself, “Ah, this is an opportunity for me to choose either fear or love. I choose love.”
  2. Take three deep, calming breaths when you notice stressful, physical sensations in your gut, the pit in your stomach, your rapidly beating heart, or the tightness in your neck or back.
  1. Practice mindfulness meditation.
  1. Move your body. Walk, run, swim, dance, bike, do Nia, yoga or Pilates. Physical exercise produces endorphins (providing a morphine-like high) right from your body’s own personal pharmacy.
  1. Pray, meditate, chant or sing. Marianne Williamson wisely suggests that we place our fears and concerns “on the altar to be altered.” I love that concept!
  1. Extend love often and be the place where love shows up.
  1. Generate and choose radical love every chance you get.

Elisabeth Kübler-Ross said, “Make your decisions based on love, not fear.” It is our choice. I want to love radically. Do you?

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©2000 – 2017 Susan Tate

Deer, Wild Turkeys, Cardinals, & Vitamins

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My driveway, January 8, 2017

I am sitting in my new country bedroom looking out into the snowy woods as I write. Seven, yes seven, deer are gently grazing outside my window. (The deer is my spirit animal!)

As many of you know, in 2016 my Nia classes were few and far between because The Dance Space closed, other studios closed, and I didn’t have a regular place to teach. Then I had the extraordinary opportunity to live in Austria in September and October so I could help care for my 2-year-old granddaughter while my daughter prepared to give birth to her second child.

In November I packed everything and prepared to move from one coast to the other. I flew from Seattle to Charlottesville on December first and stayed in four homes before landing in this sweet place in the woods.

It’s now the second week in January. I have Nia classes in place for Sunday mornings and I will be teaching once a month in a few other studios in the area. I have two wellness mini-retreats on the calendar and two special New Year’s Intention Setting Nia classes scheduled. My holistic health coaching clients can reach me by phone even though I’m in the woods! It feels good to be here.

Last year, I mindfully put my USANA Health Sciences business (the global nutritional company I partner with) aside while focusing on other aspects of life and business. It’s an important part of my income and after making such a big move, it’s now time for me to focus on USANA again.

I have questioned and asked God many times over the past year if partnering with USANA is still my path or I am doing it just because I need the residual income. I repeatedly get the answer to continue to offer these nutritional products to those who are a good match for them. I believe deeply in their quality and effectiveness. Otherwise I wouldn’t put my name by them or want to educate people about them. And as this is part of my income, in full disclosure, I get a commission on products I sell.

So with that said, I really want to tell you about VITAMINS! (You’ll hear more about wild turkeys and cardinals in a bit.)

I’ve had a Word document entitled, “Vitamins, who needs them?” in my files for about four years. The file includes well-researched citations from many third party sources about the quality of various supplements. I planned to write an article with that title but I felt compelled to entitle this one “Deer, Wild Turkeys, Cardinals & VITAMINS”. (You’ll understand the title more once you read to the end!)

I am now ready to share with you what I know about vitamins. I want you to feel nourished by what you read. And, as always, I invite you to let your intuition guide your way through, what could often be called, “The Vitamin Maze”.

Here’s what I really, really want you to know about vitamins:

1. I sell vitamins! And I have the knowledge to help you choose the ones that best match your needs.*

2. I want you to know what I didn’t know ten years ago about vitamins but what I know now. I’ve been working under the guidance of Dr. Christiane Northrup for over a decade and have learned SO much about this aspect of nutrition. Believe me, I have sorted through the vitamin maze.

3. I want you to know how essential (little pun here, as our multivitamin is called “CellSentials”) high quality supplements can be for your health.

4. I want you to know how supportive USANA’s supplements have been to me, my family, and to my customers/clients/friends who use them to support their health.

5. I want you to know what to look for when selecting a vitamin–because all vitamins are SO NOT ALIKE! And I want you to know why USANA’s vitamins are just so darn good:

They use pharmaceutical grade GMP, Good Manufacturing Practices. That translates to stringent manufacturing processes NOT required in the supplement industry. USANA’s vitamins are also certified by NSF International; an independent, non-profit organization that helps protect food, water, consumer products and the environment. And USANA voluntarily tests its supplements to make sure they meet trusted United States Pharmacopeia (USP) standards.

USANA’s vitamins have consistently received the highest rating in the Comparative Guide to Nutritional Supplements, a distinguished publication that compares over 1,500 nutritional products in North America for quality, bioavailability, potency, purity, and safety.

USANA supplements are used by athletes around the world, including: the Women’s Tennis Association, Speed Skating Team, Speed Skating Canada, Cross Country Canada, and USA Luge. USANA offers Olympic athletes a one million dollar guarantee that they will not test positive for any banned substances as a result of taking USANA nutritional products.

Dr. Myron Wentz founded USANA Health Sciences 25 years ago. Dr. Wentz is an internationally recognized microbiologist, immunologist, and pioneer in the development of human cell culture technology and infectious disease diagnoses. In 2007 he was honored with the Albert Einstein Award for Outstanding Achievement in the Life Sciences. And he is a devoted humanitarian and philanthropist. I have met this man and have enormous respect for his brain and his heart.

6. I want you do know that the U.S. Recommended Daily Allowances (RDA’s) are so outdated. The RDA is the lowest level of nutrient intake necessary to prevent deficiencies rather than a level that promotes optimal nutrition.

7. I want you to know that even eating organic foods doesn’t give us the vitamins and minerals that they once supplied back in the 1900s. For example, you would need to eat eight oranges today to get the nutrients in an orange you would have eaten years ago. Our farming practices, soil depletion, and environmental changes have been detrimental to our ability to grow nutrient dense foods.

8. I want you to know that if you live in a world with stress (pause here to take a deep breath) that our cells get bonked around, causing free radical damage–the technical term for oxidative damage. This makes it more important than ever to support our cells with antioxidants (vitamins) and minerals to support ongoing cellular repair. (And this combination of vitamins and minerals needs to be in a specific form. Randomly taking B vitamins, calcium tablets, and other combinations may result in a relative deficiency rather than optimal support.)

9. I want you to know that all vitamins are NOT alike. Yes, I said that before, but I really want you to hear it. I have found such value in these vitamins and I wouldn’t be without them. They have supported my health (which has been excellent) for ten years. Sometimes I want to shout this from rooftops but instead, I thought I’d write it here for you to see. I am passionate about eating well, getting pleasure from food, AND taking good supplements.

10. And I want you to know . . . About a week before I was to leave Austria in late October, my daughter, Molly, asked if I might be able to stay a week or so longer. Of course I never wanted to leave these two precious little granddaughters–the little one just a week old. But when Molly asked me to consider staying, my first thought was not about how crazy it would be stay when I needed to go home to pack up and move a month later. I didn’t even think about the cost of the change fee for my plane ticket. My first thought (and I didn’t say this out loud . . .) was, “Oh no! I can’t stay! I don’t have enough vitamins!”

These vitamins are not magic pills, they don’t make me fly around like Super Woman, but they sure have supported my overall health and energy in a way that is truly measurable. I want this for you too.

purple-banner-1*Please let me know how I can serve you in answering your questions about what vitamins you need. I offer a 15-minute complimentary phone coaching session to help you sort through the vitamin maze. Just email: susan@susantate.org and I’ll be in touch.
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As I close this writing, seven wild turkeys are now prancing by my window, scrounging for food amidst the snow. Oh, if I could just see a cardinal (my spirit BIRD)–I would be over the top with joy.

Divine support has been everywhere as I have made this transition to the East Coast. Thanks for letting me reach out to you to let you know more about this part of my business.

OMG, there’s a cardinal outside my window!

Not the end–but the beginning.

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www.susantate.usana.com. But PLEASE let me send you the discounted price list so you can see the prices you will pay if you choose to become a Preferred Customer. As a Preferred Customer on Auto Order you can enjoy saving up to 20% savings off the retail prices listed on my site. Email me: susan@susantate.org and I’ll assist in saving you money while happily supporting your health and wellness. And if you’d like to work with me on Team Northrup and partner with USANA, you can learn more here.purple-banner-1

©2017 Susan Tate

Copyright 2017 Susan Tate